The core fears buried inside relationships
The fear of engulfment, will I still exist if I merge with you?
The fear of abandonment, is there a magic glue to make you stay?
The shame factor, you won't love me anymore if you see the real me
The emptiness trap, if I keep moving, I won't have to look inside
The masking issues
Introduction to part II
Time spending it together, spending it apart
Money, yours, mine and ours
Children, am I ready for this?
Sex, what happened to it?
Exclusivity, who do we let in, who do we keep out?
Trust and goodwill, is long-term commitment possible if these are lost to us?
Making a decision : letting go versus going for it.
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The commitment dialogues : how to talk your way through the tough times and build a stronger relationship by Matthew McKay. ISBN 0071441557. Published by McGraw-Hill in 2005. Publication and catalogue information, links to buy online and reader comments.
